I thought being married to/a partner of a writer would be an odd experience, and I needed a test subject to confirm my theory. So, without further ado, I’ll hand over to an expert on the subject, and the one person without whom my writing wouldn’t happen – my wife.
Of course, every “writing couple” are as happy as this cheesy 80’s pair.
There is a certain assumption that being married to a writer means you never see your partner as they lock themselves away for hours on end leaving you alone and bored. However, in my experience nothing could be further from the truth and I have been amazed by the variety that TJ’s writing has brought into my life. I have to say that when he told me he wanted to try writing as a hobby I was delighted. Mostly because we share a study, and until he made this decision I was subjected to the sounds of explosions, gunfire and swearing from his computer game characters. Writing, I hoped, would be a quieter hobby and more conducive to crafting (my hobby). Instead, strains of music can now be heard emanating from TJ’s PC. You would think that would be nicer than gun fire. However, rave is all too often the music of choice. With the incessant thumping and relentless rhythms pounding through my head yielding equally thumping headaches, maybe the explosions weren’t so bad after all!
I was also pleased because I am an avid bookworm, so I was really excited to see the process of novel writing from conception through to final product. Therefore imagine my frustration when after 60,000 words of a fantasy epic the project was abandoned in favour of a poem on snot! I HATE snot and anything gooey….YUK! I had a somewhat naïve hope that having got that little episode out of his system he would return to the fantasy novel. I was to be disappointed as that story has currently been shelved in favour of a random selection of short stories and novellas including horror, which makes me hide under the bedclothes and freaks me out, and an exploration of depression. I was hoping for a little light relief after that, as I am a fantasy/action adventure girl, but his idea of light relief was another few revolting poems including one on arm pits. Now, I have a THING about arm pits. It isn’t rational I know, but there is something about them that revolts me and sends unpleasant shivers down my spine – I think it is the thought of the slippery, smelly sweat that lurks in them – EEEW! Fortunately the revolting poems have been on hold for a while, but eighteen months since TJ started writing there is still no full length adventure story – I wonder when it will materialise.
Another unexpected side effect of TJ’s writing has been the exploration of different characters. When he is writing a particular character the manner in which he speaks can change, and some exaggerated mannerisms have been known to appear as he attempts to ‘get under the skin’ of the character to write them more accurately. As a result we have had some hilarious conversations in various improbable accents including uber-posh, Germanic, and something approximating The Wurzels. I am currently living with a toned-down version of Faye Ling, fortunately minus the scathing sarcasm and female clothing, although his language has taken an alarming dive towards the gutter. I know that authors have been heard to comment that their characters come to life and seem to write themselves, but I didn’t expect them to take on life in quite this way!
Although life as a writer’s wife can be incredibly frustrating (I only want him to write a nice story so I can shout from the rooftops about how proud of him I am) it is certainly never dull and I will be cheering louder than anyone when he completes his first full length novel, whenever that is!
What unusual things have happened to you since writing came into your life (either writing yourself, or your partner writing)? Has it brought new entertaining dimensions to your conversations with your partner? Both TJ and I would love to hear about your experiences so please feel free to leave a comment below.